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The record, as it currently stands, is four minutes. I now send any potential matches my Instagram which features lo of full-length body shots, me without make-up and bikini shots for them to peruse before taking the discussion any further. Le sigh. I full-length, fabulous photos of myself in all my fat glory. As plus-size women, we are not afforded the same humanity, care, love and respect as our thinner counterparts. This can force a monumental drop in confidence and either put us off dating for life or lead us to more casual dating to try and prove our worth through sex.
All women get played! But I believe that there is a special type of humiliation and trauma within dating that plus-size women can experience which completely ignores our personalities and instead focuses totally on our body shapes. I initially felt humiliated, ashamed and completely dehumanised. I like to think that now I am confident enough and maybe numb enough to not let it define me as a woman, but for those of us who are still on our journey to finding self-love, going through an experience where you are basically seen as an experiment can be battering.
As well as being humiliated, we also have to go through the daunting experience of being unmatched or blocked as soon as we send over a full-length photo of ourselves, or be reed to being the fat best friend or the wingwoman who gets to watch all their thinner friends be chatted up on nights out. I am constantly fetishised for being black and plus-size; I am not noticed for being the multifaceted, intelligent, talented, creative, funny, awesome lass that I know I am. I am stereotyped as an extra-curvy, sexually aggressive black woman, and am supposed to be forever grateful that white men find me remotely beautiful.
This stereotype does not exist in real life. Where they are located, who knows? But in my experience, the three examples above happen on a frequent basis and are why I find dating so traumatic. Only time will tell. in. You may also like 9 body positivity advocates you need to be following on Instagram. Share this article. Recommended by Stephanie Yeboah. Beauty One big chop became a journey of self discovery for blogger Callie Thorpe. Life Body positivity advocate Jessamyn Stanley on how to ace yoga, whatever your size.
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